One thing that goes with Asperger's Syndrome is high anxiety. For this reason, Michael sees a psychologist to help retrain his brain when it comes to worries. When you have anxiety, your brain can really play tricks on you.
The ironic thing is that having an appointment for anxiety after school makes Michael anxious because he won't have as much free time at home that evening. It's not the same as the average anxious, it literally takes over and consumes his thinking for the rest of the day. He can't move on and there is no reasoning beyond his current thinking process.
On the way to a recent appointment to see the psychologist, Michael began to start winding up.
- "Why do we have to go today?"
- "Why can't we go during school hours?"
- "Now I won't have enough free time to watch my TV shows."
- "Now I won't be able to play on my DS."
It's a 20 minute drive of one-sided conversation.
This particular day, I knew Michael had a test to study for when he got home. This was going to mean even less free time for his treasured activities. Uh oh.
In an effort to distract Michael and preserve his beloved "free" time, I tell him we should study for the test on the way to the office. Brilliant, yes?
No.
I achieved the goal of derailing him from his worry over loss of free time, but I opened a new can of worms. I spent the rest of our drive listening to the fact that it doesn't make sense to ride in the car and study for a test. Michael spent a lot of time and energy letting me know that it was the worst idea I ever had and it would endanger his life for me to help him study for a test while driving. (For the purpose of clarity I have to mention that we sit at a lot of stoplights on the way to the office and I planned to look at the study guide during these times.)
When we walked back to the doctor's office to begin his session, Michael was still on his rant. I interrupted Michael to tell the doctor that Michael was worried about his free time and was upset by my offer to get the studying out of the way in transit. This doctor has a great sense of humor and a lot of experience with the Michael's of the world. In other words, this wasn't his first rodeo.
The doctor looked at Michael and said something that shocked us both.
"Michael, I want you to understand something. You need to learn it and accept it. Your mom is always right."
Michael's expression was priceless.
Then the doctor went on to tell him more:
"Your mom will be right 99.9% of the time. Get used to it. In fact, when it comes to time management and organization, your mom is an expert. People pay lots of money for the skills she has. People with her skills make about $50 an hour. You have access to this brilliant mind for free."
I'm feeling all sorts of happy at this point. I'm thinking this might be my favorite session... ever.
I'm also wondering who might be willing to hire me. Chaaaa - chiiiing!
Michael responds with something about people wasting a lot of money.
So the doctor went on:
"If there were a PhD in time management and organization, your mom would have it."
Now Michael's face lights up.
He may be on to something, yes?
No.
Michael smiles a big smile and tells us:
"If there were a PhD in crazy, my mom would have it."